In the Beginning
Reality Hits & I Hit Back
Things were shaping up at home, but completed homework and forms were still going MIA between home and school. At his most recent conference we worked with his teacher to find a solution. We came up with a daily school-checklist signed by his teachers at school and then by us at home.
And the Hits Keep on Coming
The very first day the school checklist came home he forgot to bring the assigned book home. The very first day. Okay, deep breath. We headed to the library to check out the missing book, but it got me thinking. What is happening in the 30 seconds between getting the homework and opening his backpack? He’s thinking about other stuff. He’s distracted.
Enter: meditation and mindfulness.
Meditation: Not for the Faint of Heart
Last night we started what I hope will be a new nightly routine of meditating together. Earlier in the school year my mom had worked with his class on mindfulness a few times and he sure does like the meditation game on the Wii Fit balance board. I thought it’d be a piece of cake.
Three minutes sounded reasonable for the first try.
“I get to ring the meditation bell three times to start!” He says, grabs my phone and “dong, dong, dong….dong, dong, dong-ity dong, dong, dong, dong!” I snatched it back. Things were going well so far…
He settled back into the couch. “Okay. Let. The. Glitter. Settle.” He said in all seriousness, sitting upside down, head hanging off the couch, hands positioned in mudras. “ohmmmmmmm.”
I rolled my eyes, smiled and started the timer. Four seconds in & he was twisting his body back and forth. I stopped the timer, reset him and the timer and tried again.
He laid down with his legs on my lap. I breathed deeply, trying to stay in the moment when first one of his legs started bouncing then the other. Then they were alternating…to a beat and he said, “How long did we do so far, Mom?”
It had only been 30 seconds, at most. I kept breathing and tried to stay focused. Finally the timer sounded, he bounded off the couch and headed down the hall to see what dad was doing. Nailed it.
P’s a force to be reckoned with, but then again, so am I. Tonight we use with the Wii Fit balance board. Or I farm out meditation training to Grandma. Either way that kid is going to learn to focus.